How to take and give constructive criticism? Part 1

Criticism is the act of expressing disapproval of something or someone. Constructive Criticism is the act of giving feedback to a person that is intended of providing a positive feedback in a positive tone. Every person has been criticised in one way or the other. Psychological studies have shown that men and women take criticism differently Men tend to take criticism positively while women tend to take criticism personally this is believe to be due to different socialization methods on both men and women. Men who are Brought up being shouted by their peers, games teachers, men tend to take it as the order of the day while women who are treated in a more soft and tender manner take criticism as attack on their personality.

In different environment and areas we will get criticism at one point or another, don’t expect everyone to be happy with what you do , some will be giving criticism out of goodwill, some out of malice, some what you to grow an some are just projecting their bitterness and frustration for life to you , you have to know the difference. If you don’t get criticised you won’t grow in many areas of your life and the more you grow the higher the number of criticism will increase. But there are environment which are so enmeshed or someone respects or fears you to give you criticism this is your time to call for it. Ask questions like what can I do different. Ask how do you think am fairing be honest and tell me the changes I should make. When you for it in a positive way be sure to get positive feedback and things that those around you think should be emulated. You could be this narcissist, bossy person but when others realize you indeed what to grow and develop they will give you feedback that you never expected.

When someone approaches you for feedback on his/her performance what response do you give them. Do you project your frustrations to them? Do you explain to the in a kind helpful way? Do you attach them with criticism or do you explain to them what really is the things need to be changed and offer solutions how to change them? One sage once said your words should pass through three gates:1)truth, 2)necessity and 3)kindness.